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Michelle Duggar ...
She had a miscarriage. It is so sad and I am sure they are in great pain but at the same time I can't say it should come as a surprise. Her body can't handle it anymore. Hopefully, once they get past the grief they can make the decision to stop having babies.
What do you think?
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Re: Michelle Duggar ...
That's very sad. No matter how many times you've been pregnant, I'm sure its devastating.
ETA - you might want to edit your post Jenni - your post sounds a little harsh. While as an outsider, looking at this, maybe its not "surprising" that she had a difficult pregnancy, ending in a loss, I'm sure it's "surprising" to Michelle and her husband. They didn't get pregnant going "eh, let's see if it sticks" you know?
I feel so sorry for them and their family.
It's so unfortunate that there are so many naysayers out there (who aren't doctors or midwives) who are probably saying, "Well of course this had to happen."
I do agree that this is heartbreaking.
My question was more related to the future. Do you think she should keep going as her believe tells her or do you think she should take a closer look at the signs god has given her and stop?
She had a miscarriage after having her first son. I don't think she would view this M/C any more as a sign from G-d to stop, than she did that one.
I agree...while having 20 children is not for me, I don't understand people who say "well now it will be time to stop." because in their mind God truly does dictate how many children you have, how many times you get pregnant, etc. so how can you just stop believing that and start using BC? It's easy for me to say, just go on the pill, but it goes against everything they believe. My mom had a miscarriage before me, and again when she was 41 and went on to have my healthy sister a year later. My mom is a very religious person, and I'm so grateful she didn't see her miscarriages as signs from God that she should stop.
I don't really think it's for me to say. I'm pro-choice...which means I should be as ok with her getting pregnant as I am ok with someone choosing abortion. Doesn't mean I'd do either of them, but I think everyone has a right to that choice.
And I do think it's interesting that a couple years ago they interviewed her doctor, who said that she was "born to have babies" and that her body was in great shape for anyone her age, 20 (or 17 or whatever it was then) kids or not. Now if her doctors were coming out telling her differently, I might change my mind a bit. But I haven't seen that.
miscarriage on 11/26/09 at 5w6d
Plenty of people do plenty of things with their lives and their children's lives that I do not, some of which are unhealthy and some downright dangerous.
I can't imagine going in for the 20 week anatomy scan and finding out you lost the baby and then having to go through the stillbirth.
If her doctor tells her that she's putting herself and her future child in danger by getting pregnant again at this point, then I think she's making a poor choice. If her doctor isn't saying that, how can I?
She makes countless choices that I wouldn't make, including having this many children and continuing to get pregnant. I'm not a Duggar fan at *all*. But my heart goes out to her and her family. I cannot fathom losing a pregnancy, and I feel terribly for anyone who has to go through that.
Well said!
I know first hand the pain of a late term loss. I can't even express to you the depth of pain you feel going into the hospital pregnant, going through labor, holding a baby that weighs less than a pound and saying goodbye. You have no idea what that feels like unless you've been through it and that pain is no less just because you have 19 children already. I'm sure she wanted that 20th child just as much as she wanted her first.
My heart goes out to her and her family.
I think the post has been misunderstood. There is no question that this is tragic and causing great grief. I would not wish this on anyone and I hope the support of their family helps them through it.It is a terrible loss, child 1 or 20.
This was more about the future .. the problems she had in the last pregnancy, the loss now ... do you think it is her body telling her she can't handle it anymore? What are your thoughts on the future for her .. in YOUR opinion as an observer ... no doubt she has her own believes, that is fine.
The problems she had with her last pregnancy had nothing to do with her age or what number baby she was on. I have no idea what caused her to lose this baby, and I'm relatively sure they haven't released that to the media. About 30% of pregnancies end up in miscarriage- I would think that just by statistics alone this was somewhat likely to happen just given the amount of children she has. There's no medical proof anywhere that she is putting herself or her unborn children in danger. I say that if they want the kids and can continue to provide for them why should they stop having them?
Yeah, they show her going to check ups all the time, but one show in particular a few years ago where her doctor said she was fine and in great shape, etc. I think I posted about that above.